We live in potent times. So much changes so rapidly it can be challenging to remain grounded. Often we can sense when something is off. When someone we love is suddenly distant or unavailable. When we’re not feeling the same connection or passion for the work we do. When unexpected news renders us in shock…
Sometimes we sense it, sometimes it catches us off guard. Suddenly, there we are. Facing a big change, a big transition. There’s a part of us that wants to hold on to what is passing. We want to pull a loved one closer, we work harder to be seen or appreciated at our job, or perhaps we do more to show someone we care- we praise them, try to spend more time with them, shower them with gifts all in an effort to hold on. Maybe we bend over backwards to accommodate their busy schedule.
In contrast, sometimes we run away, make ourselves unavailable. Sometimes we become busy, avoid conversations and social situations where we might encounter someone. Become indifferent at our jobs, try to numb the pain and discomfort with food, alcohol, sex, drugs, internet browsing. Sometimes we hermit ourselves away. Thinking that we can somehow avoid what we don’t want to see or accept.
No matter which way you tend towards, the way of love and conscious relation is the middle way. To honor the truth that is bubbling into your awareness. To honor the changes that are necessary to grow in a good way. Honor the love that is felt on both sides, hence the discomfort at the possibility that something known is ending. To stay present during the uncomfortable hang outs, the difficult conversations. To speak your truth and not fall into trying to please the other or running away. To take responsibility for your self, your role and, ultimately, your journey.
Just because the way things currently are is ending, doesn’t mean they may not evolve in some form. They might. But we don’t get the comfort of knowing that during the in between phases. All we can know is that we love and care for the relationship that is passing, changing or evolving. And we don’t know how things will look moving forward. We just have to trust our hearts and the guidance we are tuned into that the choice we’re making is in alignment with our highest truth. That the road laid before us is meant to help us evolve into the next stage of life. Even if it’s terribly painful. The only way out is through. Through the discomfort of the current awareness, through the taking of responsibility, through the leaning into our heart's truth.
With gratitude always, for the Great unfolding Mystery. For the road…
*Editors note- I wrote this post almost a year ago and was amazed to find the medicine rings true in this moment, too.